Male covert depression often goes unnoticed because it doesn’t look like what we typically expect depression to look like. Rather than overt sadness, it can present as irritability, emotional withdrawal, overworking, numbness, or a growing sense of disconnection—both internally and within intimate relationships.

Influenced by cultural expectations around masculinity, many men learn early to suppress vulnerability and prioritise competence over emotional expression. Over time, this disconnection can harden into a quiet but pervasive form of depression that impacts not only the individual, but also their partner and family life.

This work explores the hidden nature of male covert depression, how it shows up in relationships, and why understanding it is essential for healing, emotional intimacy, and long-term relational health.

In the quest for a harmonious relationship, the myth of a conflict-free partnership often prevails. The truth is, conflict is not only inevitable - it can be healthy. In this blog, we debunk the notion that a healthy relationship is free of disagreements and conflict. Rather, we explore how healthy conflict fosters growth, understanding and deeper connection. We also shed light on the signs of unhealthy conflict.

Self esteem affects the relationship with have with ourselves, how we feel about ourselves and the world around us and it is intimately connected to the quality of our relationships.

The experience of Relational Trauma can give rise to any number of adaptive behaviours. Because of our genius when we are young (don’t worry, I still think you’re brilliant) it is natural for us to create adaptations when we experience something that feels overwhelming for us.

Cairns Counselling and couples therapy can support you to develop greater connection, heal past hurt, understand and prevent painful patterns, and increase your relational skills and esteem in your relationship. Contact Biannka Brannigan, Cairns Relationship Counsellor, Educator and Psychotherapist.