COUPLES THERAPY

What is couples therapy?

Couples therapy is a form of psychotherapy that helps partners improve their relationship, resolve conflicts, build relational skills and develop healthier communication patterns. A trained therapist provides a safe, neutral space where both partners can express their feelings, understand each other’s perspectives, and work together toward positive change.

What makes your approach different?

I specialise in working with couples who are on the brink of separation or divorce. My focus is helping you turn your relationship around by giving you the knowledge and skills needed to create an extraordinary relationship, not just survive but truly thrive together.

Is it really possible to save our relationship?

If you’re both willing to show up and do the work, yes. Many couples who come to me feeling hopeless discover that their relationship can not only be saved but transformed into something better than they imagined. The key is learning new skills and gaining the understanding you’ve been missing.

We’re already talking about divorce. Is it too late?

Being on the brink of separation doesn’t mean it’s too late. In fact, this critical moment often creates the motivation needed for real change. If there’s any part of you that wants to try, and you’re both willing to participate, we can work together to see if your relationship can be turned around.

What if only one of us wants to save the relationship?

It’s common for partners to be in different places. Even if one of you is more hesitant, we can work with that. Sometimes the reluctant partner becomes more hopeful once they see that change is actually possible. The most important thing is that you’re both willing to come to sessions and engage in the work both during sessions and while you are at home.

How do I know if we need couples therapy?

Many couples benefit from therapy, even those without major crises. Consider therapy if you’re experiencing frequent arguments, communication breakdowns, intimacy issues, trust concerns, life transitions, or simply feel disconnected. Therapy can also be valuable for premarital counselling or strengthening an already good relationship.

Is it too late for us?

It’s rarely too late if both partners are willing to participate and work on the relationship. However, earlier intervention typically leads to better outcomes. Even if you’re considering separation, therapy can help you make informed decisions, better understand each other and, if needed, separate more amicably.

Do both partners need to attend every session?

While couples therapy is most effective when both partners attend regularly, there may be occasional individual sessions. Consistency and commitment from both people are important for making progress.

The Therapy Process

What happens in the first session?

The first session is 110min and typically involves discussing your relationship history, current challenges, and goals for therapy. I’ll ask questions to understand your dynamics, communication patterns, and what brought you to therapy. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and see if we’re a good fit.

How long does couples therapy take?

The duration varies depending on your specific situation and goals. Some couples see improvement in 6-8 sessions although typically the average is around 14 sessions. Essentially, we are creating new neural pathways and this takes time – I equate it to learning a new language.

We’ll regularly assess progress and discuss what’s working.

How often will we meet?

Most couples begin with weekly sessions. As progress is made, we may transition to biweekly or monthly sessions. Consistency is important, especially in the beginning.

What if one partner doesn’t want to come?

It’s ideal when both partners are motivated, but I can work with couples where one partner is initially reluctant. Sometimes starting therapy can help the hesitant partner become more engaged. Individual therapy is also an option that can benefit the relationship.

Practical Information

How much does couples therapy cost?

Fees are outlined on the couples therapy page. Payments are to be made before the session

What is your cancellation policy?

Cancellations require 24 hour notice or 100% of the full fee will be payable.

Where are sessions held?

The majority of my clients have their sessions online/telehealth.  For those able and willing to travel, my practice is based in Kuranda, Far North Queensland.

How long are sessions?

The initial session is 110min. Some couples like to continue with 110min session, otherwise 80 min sessions are typically standard.

What if we fight during the session?

Conflict during sessions can actually be productive. It gives me the opportunity to observe your communication patterns in real time and help you develop healthier ways to navigate disagreements. The therapy room is a safe place to work through difficult emotions.

Can therapy help if there’s been infidelity?

Yes, many couples successfully work through infidelity with professional help. Rebuilding trust takes time and commitment from both partners, but therapy provides tools and support for this difficult process.

What if we decide to separate?

While the goal is often to improve the relationship, therapy can also help couples separate more peacefully if that’s the best outcome. I can support you in making thoughtful decisions and, if needed, help you develop a healthy co-parenting relationship.

What if I have more questions?

Please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m happy to answer any additional questions you may have about couples therapy or my practice..