The person who seems least affected by relationship difficulties may not be the person who feels the least - they may simply have become very good at moving away from what feels uncomfortable. This post looks at how avoidant attachment develops, what it can look like in adult relationships, and how to move gently toward more security without losing what makes independence a strength.

Attachment theory has become shorthand for a personality quiz - anxious, avoidant, secure, disorganised. But at its best, it's not a label. It's a way of bringing awareness to the patterns shaping how we connect, with others and with ourselves - and a reminder that none of it is fixed.